Wednesday, 25 January 2012
22:27 | Posted by Caz | Edit Post
... is a phrase I'm beginning to loath the more I hear it. I've blogged before on my disdain for the official terminology surrounding angel babies.
No-one, as far as I know, has used this phrase in relation to my family; but I've seen it time and again recently in relation to other people. And each time I see it, I cringe and get cross. I get cross because the implication is thoughtless at best. Down right derogatory at worst.
Let's put this in to some context. For example; 'Caz had a stillbirth in June 2010'.
So what is it about this sentence that is upsets me so much?
Because it is, as far as I'm concerned inaccurate, insensitive, deeply hurtful and offensive.
I didn't just 'have a stillbirth'. I had a DAUGHTER. A baby girl. A person. Who, if it is insisted upon using the official terminology, happened to be stillborn. Or as I prefer my baby girl was born sleeping. To merely describe her a stillbirth dehumanises her. A phrase so cold that it can't even be bothered to acknowledge the fact there was a baby involved at all. That in fact she is a real baby. Real. A person. My baby. Anabelle; not just an event that happened to me in June 2010. A person who came into my life forever.
Urgh. Sometimes these things really get to me and I'm sure I'm not the only angel parent to feel this way.
- After Anabelle - Raising Rainbows. I'm Caz, Mummy to beautiful angel Belle and my wonderful rainbow boys, Xander, Zachy and Luc. Wife to Jon. Twitter @cazem Instagram @cazzyem
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